avatar! wrote:Interesting post! I read about your "problem", and apparently many men have experienced it at some point. Very interesting... apparently some people have the same issue when it comes to going poo-poo. I wonder if this is a modern issue caused by society? That would be my guess, since I think this is primarily psychological, and I'm also guessing it comes from the fact that in today's age we rarely have much time to ourselves. Anyway, I hope your "problem" isn't too serious. I read a report which said this hasn't been studied much (which makes me think it's a fairly modern problem) and that some people have such severe anxiety that they can't urinate anywhere except in their own bathroom! Wow... when you think about that, that has to be incredibly hard in life! Fascinating...
Paruresis is fairly common and it affects women as well. The other form, which hinders defecation, is called parcopresis. So far, I've met a woman with paruresis and another with parcopresis. They both told me and luckily, I was already familiar with the disorders. Most people would've regarded them as crazy. Vast numbers of men have paruresis, in varying degrees of severity. At the extreme end, people will not leave their houses. At the minimal end, it causes minor time delays in the restroom. My favorite author, Philip Jose Farmer, has paruresis. He admitted that in his autobiography. My grandpa also had it when he was in the military, but large latrines cured him of that problem - no possible privacy.
In my opinion, it is because we have too much time to ourselves. Just think about how we sleep, for example. Often, it is alone. We are living together in large cities, yet largely have underdeveloped social skills. Social networking sites give us even more reason to be isolated, since we can communicate with people without physically going anywhere. Using the internet (or phones) to communicate is not how we've been doing things these past 100,000 years. I've read that 70% of a conversation is carried out through body language, which is lost while using phones and e-mail. The internet and phones are great for quick messages (like semaphoring was in the past), but should not be used in place of actual conversation (until holography transmission becomes indistinguishable from reality - and cheap).
I would guess that neither paruresis nor parcopresis are modern problems, but have been enhanced by isolationism. They generally affect people with higher IQs. Since people with higher IQs tend to know more than people with lower IQs, this means they have more to worry about and are thus more susceptible to psychological problems. Having a higher than average IQ is not always a boon.
You would be shocked if I told you how I handled paruresis. It would make for some interesting reading.