I just got back from my friend's Memorial Day/Birthday party and about fifteen minutes before I left things... kind of went to hell.

I guess somebody lost a $100 bill (why you'd take that kind of money out at any point in a setting like this is beyond me...) and my friend's neighbor (who I do not know in the slightest) had the nerve to ask me how much money I had in my wallet.

My response: "I have one dollar in my wallet. I don't tend to carry cash."

See, I knew they were looking for something prior to him asking me this... I just didn't what that was until after the question was asked.

However, I'm sorry... I shouldn't be asked or have to tell a complete stranger what is in my wallet. That is bullcrap. If the question has to be asked, it should be asked by my friends, the people who invited me. I would have no issue with that.

I'm not insanely furious over this, but I do feel the need to tell my friends that this exchange took place. Also, I don't expect my friends to confront the neighbor over this... but it was crap of the highest degree.

How would you feel about this?

It's extremely d*ckish to ask that instead of just whether you'd found a large bill lying around.

Reading the story made me think that perhaps the neighbor had found the $100 bill and was then asking around how much money people thought to carry with them. If someone thought to have more than $100, they were probably the one who had lost the bill. That way, it would've been rather clever on the neighbor's side as no one could claim to have lost the bill. Of course, if he was the one who had lost it, it's a completely different story.

It's nobody's business how much money  you have in your wallet except your own. I would tell that person to mind their own business. I would also tell your friend about this. Still, no use getting too upset, and I think you made the right call.

I talked to my friend at work about this. Funny thing I didn't even have to start the conversation... he already knew what happened and apologized.

From what my friend said the guy was pretty lit... but my friend said that didn't excuse what he did. However, the interesting thing was I wasn't the only person he hit up. Like I thought I was individually targeted (as well as few others there) because he didn't know (me) us. That was apparently the criteria. That's pretty damn scummy if you ask me.

But yeah, I wasn't losing any sleep over it... but being asked that was as aggravating as you'd expect.

There were much better ways to ask that question without coming off completely condescending.